The fear of Public Speaking affects over 75% of the population, it affects your ability to progress at work and sharing your solutions with others.
You miss out on several opportunities and most importantly, on expressing yourself.
Fear alone is the main motive and it is embedded deep within us for many reasons as we all had our issues growing up and it directly affects our self confidence. However as much as it hurts, your past shouldn’t be holding you back. If we look into the roots of fear, we can clearly see that fear controls our ability to take risks. Fear exists to protect us against risky situations and is not necessarily bad, it has its right place and time.
We wouldn’t survive or evolve as a species without fear.
Public Speaking on the other hand, is all about being self confident. In fact that’s really all you need to be successful at it!
If it is that simple then why so many people (including you) struggle ? Because they/you keep feeding the fear that is within. The fear of public speaking could have arisen when you were 10 years old when you had to make a presentation at school and the entire classroom laughed at you, or it could have been that your father always mentioned how shy of a kid you were, it really doesn’t matter when this “blockage” started, what matters is how will YOU overcome that NOW.
Fear has many lawyers and its roots usually goes deep into our childhood.
First you need to overcome the main “blockage” which is an embedded psychological issue. To overcome this “block” that’s holding you back, it’s important to self reflect. Self reflection means to analyze yourself purely and honestly, the good and the bad. Look at your life and how you have behaved with others as well as your childhood growing up, your relationship with your parents and traumatic situations you were exposed to.
Once you gathered all that data mentally, start to pin point the “feeling of fear” in those situations. When in your childhood did you feel the same way you feel about public speaking? Did you feel that anxiety and desperate fear when you were 10? Did you feel it when your parents divorced? Whatever it is, Pin Point it and write it down. The situations might be different but the feeling is the same. If at 10 years old you felt the same anxiety and fear you feel today, then that’s it, that’s the experience that you need to mentally Pin Point.
When you do that, you are practically doing a mini self therapy on yourself by breaking down the first barrier: The fear of facing your own past
By looking back at your childhood and being able to cope with the same feelings that you are trying to avoid (fear of public speaking) you are mentally creating a new neural connection. When a new neural connection is created in your brain, it registers past experiences in a different light.
This means you are literally chewing away your fear little by little. This step is very important and will give you so much self confidence as it works completely with the human psyche. Our psyche is complex, we have the conscious and the subconscious, in order for us to touch on the subconscious we need to work by changing how we feel about our past experiences. At first you won’t even notice the change in your behavior but you are going to slowly feel more relaxed and confident, to the point where you will want to start taking more action towards public speaking.
You can know your topic in and out but if you are not able to convey your ideas with confidence then the content won’t matter.
This is one simple aspect of how our brain interacts with feelings such as Fear. It all starts mentally.
If you would like to change how you feel about Public Speaking, This book The Power of Your Subconscious Mind can definitely help!